My girlfriend has been pressuring me to have children with her. We both agree that we should at least try living together before doing this, but she wants the kid sooner rather than later. She is 34 right now and concerned about having kids past the age of 35. We are currently not living together, but the current plan is to get a place together within 6 months. I’ve been with her a year. I have some issues with this that I will discuss below.
She also wants a marriage license. The marriage license thing bothers me nearly as much as the kid. It is a violently imposed State contract that allows her to assault me indirectly should our relationship take a turn for the worse. The kid I view as completely ending my life and the marriage license I view as completely entrapping me within a violently imposed legal control grid of family law courts. I have no problems with marriage, I have a problem with marriage licenses specifically. It strikes me as outrageous that I should have to ask permission to marry someone from the State.
My thoughts on the kid issue:
Children are massive resource hogs that will either bankrupt me completely or leave me living in near total poverty. I make less than 100,000 a year in an expensive California suburb. If my girlfriend were to leave work to raise a child (I would never subject my own kid to violently funded indoctrination centers operated by State authoritarian control freaks), I would certainly be teetering on the edge of bankruptcy. There would be no way I could afford to save for the kids future schooling or any other long term large expenses. I would also totally wipe out any chance of retiring by 70. I would be forced to work until death with total certainty. On my own, I barely have anything left over after expenses as it is. Taking care of two other people on my salary alone would mean a diet of Ramen Noodles and clothing from the thrift store. I can clearly see why 45 million Americans are on food stamps at the moment. I wager 99% of them have kids.
Children require constant attention for nearly decade, leaving me with zero personal time. I’m 35 right now and my energy levels certainly aren’t what they were in my early 20′s. Not only would I have zero personal time, but I would be run completely ragged. I would be working my butt off all day and then working my butt off all night. Forget about vacations, no money or time for that nonsense. Further, I don’t trust my girlfriend to teach the child the virtues of voluntary contracts and private property rights. Most of the child’s real education would have to come from me.
Of course, money, energy and time are not the only reasons I view having kids as dangerous. The State owns me, it owns you, and it will certainly own my children. They will be forced to live in a society that incarcerates more people than Stalin did at the height of the gulag system. They will be faced with a 33% chance of being arrested before the age of 23 for peaceful voluntary behaviors. Of course, there is always the good chance that I will be locked up for simply operating this blog or some other arbitrary peaceful activity I chose to engage in, leaving the kid without a father. The State will continue to criminalize all activities. The Economist reports that:
Overall, from the beginning of the Obama Administration to mid-FY 2011, regulators have imposed $38 billion in new costs on the American people, more than any comparable period on record.
The number of pending regulations that cost 100 million or more every year has doubled in under five years.
In 2010, the federal government alone added 80,000 pages of new laws that control every aspect of human behavior. The total number of pages of federal legal code is currently impossible to even calculate. The federal tax code alone clocks in at 74,994 pages in length as of 2010.
US schools have become prison zones, where children are arrested for the most innocuous acts. The list in this article and its associated links will have your head spinning. You will not believe it to be real, but I assure you, every example provided is quite real. Children have been arrested, assaulted or fined for using perfume in class, burping in class, leaving crumbs on the floor, drawing on the desk, 6 year old temper tantrums, throwing paper planes, bringing a plastic butter knife to school, yelling at cafeteria workers, kissing, and a whole host of other completely normal childhood behaviors. In 2010 alone, police in Texas issued an astounding 300,000 tickets to school children.
The State will rob them blind through payroll taxes leaving them with no hope of retirement or even saving enough money to afford their own home. They will grow up in poverty and live a life of fear, warfare and misery. The State will continue to print money and expand its violent wars until society totally collapses into a smoking heap of ruin as we saw in Wiemar Germany post WWI. The fact that this will happen is now a mathematical certainty. They will have no hope of living a comfortable life in the future. At this stage of the economic collapse, my child would come into the world at the height of the meltdown.
One way to starve the beast into submission is to deprive it of human capital. By not having children, the State’s violent regime would come to an end that much quicker. By depriving the State of tax slaves, the socialist security system will implode that much quicker. By depriving the State of tax slaves, the wars will end that much quicker. By depriving the State of tax slaves, the dollar will be destroyed that much quicker. Withholding human capital is definitely a non-violent means by which the destruction of the State can be hastened.
My girlfriend refuses to recognize any of these issues as being problems. She wants a kid, end of story. Further, my girlfriend has internal cystitis and fibromyalgia, which means she is occasionally in so much pain that she becomes nearly incapacitated. This means I would be the one who would have to pick up the slack with the kid. Her condition has left her with an aversion to food, which also means I would be the one who does most of the cooking.
On top of this, my family is halfway across the continent. The only direct support I could get would have to come from her family. Her family is large, but still, my own mother and aunts would not be available to me as a resource.
After all my ranting, I really want to know one simple thing.
WHY IN THE HELL DO WOMEN WANT TO HAVE KIDS!?
What the hell is so great about kids? I just can’t figure it out. I know what kind of a terrorist I was as a child. I destroyed more property and got into more trouble than I can even remember. I nearly gave my mother a nervous breakdown. Playing with fire in the woods, blowing up paper boxes with soda bombs, stealing the car and crashing it in the middle of the night halfway across the state, ruining my dad’s ceiling tiles, refusing to do my homework or cooperate with authoritarians in school, sucking down enough food to feed an army, breaking numerous windows, making homemade firearms in the garage with fireworks and metal tubing, etc.. etc.. etc.. - and now I’m supposed to inflict all that upon myself? why?
I remember my mom actually dragged me down to the local fire department when I was a kid and she had the fire marshal yell at me LOL. (It didn’t do any good). Once I was even arrested for sticking a flashing police light on her car so I could speed through stop lights HAHAHA! I was TERRIBLE! Frankly, it’s a miracle of Christ that I managed to get a degree and become a respectable contributing professional.
I feel that I should emphasize that my mother and father had nothing to do with my behavior. They were very caring and loving parents. I just chose to be a rebellious obnoxious little shit because I was born that way. They did everything they could to raise me right. There just comes a point where the kid is going to do what he wants regardless of the parenting involved.
Someone help me out here and explain to me why I should have kids. Why should I add another slave to the system? What am I missing here? Where are the rewards? What is my kid going to provide me that a good dog will not? I love dogs. They are always happy to see you. They are easy to take care of. They don’t require constant attention. They don’t take a lot of resources to maintain. They are fun to play with. etc.. etc..
And heaven forbid our relationship should end in divorce like 50% of all marriages do. Child support, alimony for forever, legal fees resulting in bankruptcy, total butt rape for forever. Of course I would continue to support my child voluntarily, but the State certainly isn’t going to allow me to negotiate equitable support/custody, women always get the better end of the deal.